Overcoming Fear as Self-Care

Recently, while checking out of a hotel, the clerk commented on how much she liked the neon yellow color accenting my nails. She went on to say she was afraid to select such a bold color for herself, although she loved it on others. She explained she was concerned others might perceive it as “too much.” At that moment, I admonished her to give it a try. “YOLO! You only live once, and it’s temporary,” I said. "If you don't like it, change it." She smiled and nodded her head in agreement. While she agreed with me, I don't think she was convinced to give being bold a try.

As we pulled away from the hotel, I continued to think about this encounter. What intrigued me about our brief interaction was her fear. She could not pull the trigger on a bright nail color because she was worried about what others might think. I began to think about fear's impact on our decisions. Fear of rejection. Fear of judgment. Fear of failure. Fear can be crippling and counterproductive.

I might be reaching here, but I am willing to bet the clerk’s fear extends beyond the nail salon. She likely operates from a place of fear in many areas of her life. What could she accomplish if fear was no longer a factor? 

As someone who is rarely afraid (not always a good thing), it is somewhat difficult for me to grasp fear in a non-life-threatening, non-critical situation. I figure most things are worth a try. If it does not work out, try something else. Seems simple enough to me, but I understand that not everyone shares my perspective.

I want to submit that fear should not be a factor in most of our daily decision-making. Further, making decisions based on pleasing others is a recipe for disaster. There is no way to make everyone happy all of the time, and I do not believe this should be your goal. The word teaches us that God has not given us the spirit of fear, but He has given us a sound mind. If you make decisions that serve you with your sound mind, you are doing the best you can do. There is no reason to fear.

Today I want you to examine how you make decisions and decide on the risks you will take. What are you apprehensive about, and how does fear impact your decision-making? Are you living your life for others, or are you living in the fullness of who God called you to be? Whether your choice is correct is less important than the courage it took to stand in your truth and do YOU (even if you fail)!

Let’s commit to operating with our sound minds. Fear is not a factor! Here’s to your health!